We used to call this phenomenon "internalized homophobia." In fact, it's still called that. People just seemed to have stopped considering this issue, as if somehow it had magically gone away some time in 1985.
It is to wonder wether a motivation for being gay and grounded in politics would not in the end carry less weight than a motivation grounded in pure egoism.Before the mid 80s,it was common for gays in my circle to poke fun at and make jokes about the hethro lifestyle,particularly its limitations and consequences.Nowadays,the only person with whom I can still have a good discussion and laugh at the misfortunes of hethro
married people is my sibling,not without some measure of merit from the part of the said sibling who is *heterosexual*.The said sibling simply never
married and has only contempt for marriage and family life.That independent individual,family ties apart,is closer to me than many gays.
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